(WCMH) — An Oregon mother shared a text message exchange with a birth photographer who shamed her for having a c-section.
The exchange went viral after being shared by the Sanctimommy blog.
The mother was trying to arrange for a birth photographer. In a text exchange, the photographer mentioned the uncertainty of when a birth would actually happen. The woman replied saying that she was having a schedule c-section.
The photographer told her that she wanted no part of it.
“A surgery isn’t birth, my dear,” the photographer texted. “You are having a surgery to remove your baby from your abdomen. That is not birth no matter how you swing it and I for one don’t want to be there to take pictures of it.”
The photographer continued, “This motherhood job is hard, if I were you I would think twice about starting such a job by cutting corners so early in the game.”
The mother initially posted the entire exchange on her Facebook page, but it was later deleted after she said she received backlash.
“I realize when sharing things on the internet, you’re going to have a lot of different people come out with lots of different opinions, some of them being negative,” the mother told NBC affiliate WCNC. “What I didn’t realize is that my name would be absolutely slandered across the internet. My family is being harassed, I’m getting death threats, my previous employers are being contacted.”
The mother says she doesn’t want to be identified.
“I was simply sharing something that I think needs to be an open discussion among moms, and people in general, and I stand by that… but I can’t even share the excitement of my daughter growing on this page without being flooded by harassing comments,” she told WCNC-TV.